tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22707059576095262942024-03-05T06:29:29.374-08:00Marcia's Marvelous AdventureMarciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-23518470986728841232011-08-20T07:43:00.000-07:002011-08-20T08:08:29.875-07:00My blog has been published!My "adventure" continues, but in a new way. I have published my blog and it's now a book! It's still called, "Marcia's Marvelous Adventure", but with the added sub-title, "a cancer survivor's journey through chemo and beyond". It is available in paperback for $14.99 at the following website: cheshirepress.com. When there, go to Library and then Memoirs...and there I am! (I also have some copies of my book at home, for anyone local to buy...and I'll autograph them!)
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<br />I have been asked if I am going to start a new blog, and I've been thinking about that. I'm going to become a grandma in October, so this might be just the thing to write about! It will be a much happier adventure to be on, and full of many new changes in baby paraphernalia and "how to's" since I had my own babies.
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<br />In the mean time, thank you all for being followers of my marvelous adventure. I hope that good health and a happy life can be an adventure we all share now.
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<br />And, stay tuned!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-84269965142543399922011-07-09T07:49:00.000-07:002011-07-09T07:59:03.368-07:00AfterwardIt’s been a few months since I posted “Making lemonade” and I’ve had a few more hairs add themselves to my head during this time. Imagine my surprise! I had the opportunity to visit sunny Florida earlier this year and that’s when I first noticed the sprouting begin. Granted, there’s still not a lot of hair, but I finally have some definition to my head…sort of like a peach does. I now have lots of baby fine fuzz all over my head, sprinkled with grey and brown.
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<br />I also am seeing some itty bitty eyelashes appearing, and a few light colored eyebrows sprinkled along my brow line, but nothing you can really notice. What you’re really seeing is the eyeliner around my eyes, not the lashes, and my eyebrows have been carefully applied with a brush and powder.
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<br />I am wearing my wig less and less, now that it’s warm outside. Except for times when I want to dress up a little more, I prefer wearing hats, or just going bare-headed. I’m still a little self-conscious when I first go somewhere in public bare-headed, but I’m probably more aware of my baldness than anyone else. I don’t know who I think I’m fooling, though, with my hats…it’s obvious that there’s no hair underneath them. But I guess that they’re a security blanket, of sorts…they add some definition to my head. What’s funny is that I am so used to seeing myself in the mirror bald or with a hat on, that when I do opt to wear my wig, it’s like greeting an old friend again. I find myself thinking, “oh, there you are…nice to see you again.”
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<br />The cutest thing happened to me the other day while at the beach spending the afternoon with friends and our families. After about two hours into our time together, their three year old grandson suddenly stopped playing with his truck, looked straight at me and said, “you don’t have hair”, to which I answered that he was right…that I used to have hair, but I had to take some medicine and it made my hair fall out. He simply said, “oh…my mommy has hair,” and then went back to playing. If only life was as simple as that of a three year old!
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<br />Do I miss my real hair? You bet. I still find myself admiring haircuts and colors, and thinking to myself that if I had hair I would be a redhead again, and have feather extensions put in. Does it make me feel bad when people talk about their own hair when with me? Not at all; I don’t give it a second thought. You see, in my own mind I still think of myself as having hair, so I totally empathize with anyone who is talking about their hair. There’s no need to tiptoe around the subject or apologize when it happens.
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<br />What really matters, is that I am healthy again and feeling great. My doctors tell me that I am cancer free and only want to see me every 3-6 months for the first two years after surgery and chemo, just to check in with me. There will be no more blood tests or mammograms, which is a little scary, but I have been told that this is the new protocol and that I can come in to see them at any time if I have concerns.
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<br />I feel like I have been given a new lease on life and am making up for lost time. I am physically able to do everything that I did before cancer and chemo, with almost the same energy level. I am walking the full three miles again with my walking buddies, as well as playing tennis and golf, and rejoice at being tired for a physical reason.
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<br />What has really surprised me about my “adventure” has been the number of people who have told me that I have been an inspiration to them. I never gave it a second thought…this is life; you just learn to roll with it. I know that I had it pretty easy as far as having an early diagnosis and being able to tolerate the chemo. But I’ve always been one who “puts on a happy face” rather than dwelling in “poor, pitiful me” thoughts. Negative thoughts never do anything but generate negative energy, which is counter-productive, especially when you have a battle to win.
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<br />The best thing that this view of life has enabled me to do is to reach out to others who have a breast cancer diagnosis and offer them my support, as well as my own experiences. I don’t claim to have all the answers, nor do I see myself as some sort of cancer guru. I am, simply, me. Do I get tired of dealing with cancer all the time? Yes, but the reason is because it grieves me to see so many women being diagnosed, at all ages, every day. On the flip side, though, it is a constant reminder of how fortunate I am to be a SURVIVOR! And so I see this as my opportunity to pay it forward.
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<br />What has allowed me to persevere through my own “marvelous adventure” has been my acceptance of what was put before me, a steady belief in my doctors and surgeons, a strong faith, the love of my family and friends, and a positive attitude. A friend sent me a wonderful little anecdote by an unknown author entitled, “I Intend to Have a Great Day,” that really sums up what I believe to be true in life. The last part of it goes like this:
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<br />Attitude is everything.
<br />Have a great day!
<br />Be kinder than necessary,
<br />For everyone you meet is fighting
<br />Some kind of battle.
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<br />Live simply,
<br />Love generously,
<br />Care deeply,
<br />Speak kindly…
<br />Leave the rest to God.
<br />Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-9565625405231716522011-04-13T08:32:00.000-07:002011-04-13T08:33:18.502-07:00Making lemonadeSaturday morning I hosted a coffee at my house. Invited, were three women who also have had breast cancer, gone through chemo, lost their hair, and waited expectantly for it to grow back in. And then the unexpected happened...it didn't. No one tells you that possibility before you start chemo. I can understand why...it would probably deter many more people from undergoing chemo, given the side effects we already hear about. But it makes me wonder just how many other women are out there who's hair has not grown back, and are hiding beneath their wigs.<br /> <br />We spent the morning getting to know each other...laughing together, as well as sharing cancer and treatment stories. It was a wonderful feeling being able to talk freely with eachother, knowing that we all totally understood and empathized with the cancer journeys we had each embarked on, and the shock and disappointment we each had felt when our hair did not grow back as expected. I greeted them at the door bare-headed, which I think surprised them. But by the end of our visit they each, singly, took their wigs off so that we could compare hair...or should I say lack of hair...and wigs with each other. We learned alot about, and from, eachother. <br /> <br />What's interesting is that none of us is completely bald...our hair is just very, very thin and wispy...nothing you could style in any way. They've grown their hair out, while I've kept my hair very short all over. They've been post-chemo for two to four years, while I am just a year this month. We all had different chemo "cocktails" and some had radiation as well. There was no common denominator between us, other than cancer itself. We are just part of the unlucky 10% whose hair doesn't grow back after chemo. <br /> <br />We all have grieved for our hair in different ways. We have tried lotions and potions and vitamins and special ionized hair brushes and stimulating head massages. Anything that sounded in the least bit viable, we have tried. Some have seen a little improvement, but for the most part, our hair remains the same...thin. Even our eyelashes, and eyebrows...thin (or almost non-existent). But at least those can be colored in...or tatooed. That was a whole other discussion... <br /> <br />What impressed me the most about our being together was the bond that was immediately felt by all of us. We were brought together by coincidence and fate, and became instant sisters because of it. We share a common positive attitude and curiosity, and have each turned our own "lemons" into "lemonade". I am thankful to have found these wonderful women to share my latest journey with, and know that we will continue to meet and encourage eachother, as well as any others who may come our way.<br /> <br />Before they left, I gave each of them a pair of "diamond" earrings...some "bling" to wear. I told them that we all need a little "bling" in our lives, especially when we're in the midst of the dark days of cancer, treatment or hair loss. This has become my new mission...to try and brighten the days of other women who are going through cancer or treatment with the simple gift of "bling". And it worked with them...they were all smiles.Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-87481960732102215032011-02-25T12:05:00.001-08:002011-02-25T12:06:10.174-08:00I think I flunked my eye exam!In school, I never was very good with multiple choice questions. They all sounded like they could be the correct answer, with just a little variation to make them tricky. That's how I felt after having my new lenses put in my glasses...I think I chose the wrong answer. I'm not sure if I chose "one or two", "two or three", or "three of four", but whichever one it was, I was still struggling with reading and my eyes were tired and strained all the time. I tried my best to get used to them for a couple of weeks, but I finally had to call my eye doctor and admit that I thought my lenses weren't correct. I had chosen the wrong answer.<br /> <br />I made an appointment to go back in and get re-tested (oh, no!) and, sure enough, came up with a different "answer"....about two "clicks" less than before. So Lynnette kindly re-ordered my newest prescription for me (you're allowed to send them back once if they're not just right) and ten days later they came in. At first, I thought they were the correct answer this time. But after another couple of weeks, I wasn't sure that these were working as well as hoped for again. I was still having to adjust my glasses up and down my nose a little, and my eyes were still getting tired. So, once again, I called Lynnette and asked her if she had kept my other new lenses. She said she wasn't sure...that she might have thrown them away, but that she'd check and let me know.<br /> <br />Two days later she called to tell me she had found them...in the trash! She had rummaged through their trash bags and found them. I was so thankful...but embarrassed! I had turned my doctor into a dumpster diver! Fortunately, it didn't come to that, but only because their dumpster had recently been emptied. We laughed, and then agreed to a time when I could go back and have her put my recently recovered lenses back in my glasses. <br /> <br />To make a long story short, my "dumpster lenses" are still not the correct ones...I'm back to choice # 2 again, after trying choice #1 and having sore, red eyes after wearing them. I'm wondering if my dry eyes are affecting things for me, as they certainly contribute to my eyes feeling tired, as well. In the meantime, I have another appointment in April to re-check my dry eyes and possibly have plugs put in, and Lynnette said that we can re-test my eyes again for vision as well. I hope it's not multiple choice!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-24718205087352518762011-02-19T11:55:00.000-08:002011-02-21T09:00:12.968-08:00Sore buns, but happy heart!Well, I made my television debut yesterday and I think it went well! The interviewer, Tim, was very easy going and I hardly even realized that we were being taped until it was all over. There was no calling out "lights, cameras, action" to warn me...it just started as an easy conversation with the microphone suddenly pointed at me. Probably my most notable quote that they extracted and used from my interview (they cut and spliced three individual interviews together) was when Tim asked me what my expectations were from doing the cycle challenge, to which I answered, "sore buns". Probably not the answer he was looking for, but I couldn't help myself...it just came out!<br /> <br />This morning was our time to ride. Rich and I shared one bike for two hours, switching every half hour, while our son-in-law, Matt, brought in his own bike to ride on a trainer and rode for an hour and a half. We were entertained and kept pumped up by a live band made up of teachers from West Ottawa called Staff Infection, who volunteered their time and played all the hits from our era and more. The time passed quickly because of them, and I can't really complain of having sore buns! The room was full of 50+ bikes, not including bikes that were brought in and put on trainers by individuals, and it was an amazing sight to see. Having never done a bike-athon, I didn't know what to expect...how are all the bikes lined up...where does everyone fit when not riding...where do the supporters go? <br /> <br />We were lucky and were in the front row, so we had space in front of us to pull up a couple of chairs to sit on when not riding. The group next to us sat on the floor and played Uno while waiting their turns. But if you weren't in the front, there was only enough room for the rider and maybe one other person, but you wouldn't want to stand there for long because everyone was so close together. So when you're assigned a time slot, that's really your own solo time to ride. A time to just pedal hard and enjoy the view! Volunteers continually walked through the room with trays full of goodies...slices of bananas and bagels, cookies, energy bars, snack mix...and there was also water and Gatorade available. All you really had to do was show up and pedal...the organizers and volunteers thought of everything else.<br /> <br />All in all, it has been a wonderful first experience for me...I plan on participating again next year. And, as always, events such as this touch my heart...with gratitude for my own happy ending, and for the hope that is inspired by the efforts of so many wonderful people working together. Thank you, everyone.Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-55390711911478067682011-02-17T13:50:00.001-08:002011-02-17T13:50:54.466-08:00Who's that FOXy lady?This weekend is the 24 hour Ultimate Cycle Challenge to raise funds for cancer research. Teams will be riding bikes for 12 and 24 hours, and I have the priviledge of having a team organized and named in my honor by my friend, Betsy. It's called Marcia's Marvelous Milers! Because of this honor, I thought that I should ride with them, even though the thought of riding a spinning bike for an hour sounds grueling! But I've been told that "coasting" and other forms of resting are allowed, so I know that I will do just fine!<br /> <br />Another good friend of mine, Tom, is on the Challenge committee and asked me if I would agree to be interviewed by FOX-17 News on Friday afternoon for their 10:00 news report that night. They want to interview a couple of survivors who are participating in the challenge and Tom thought of me immediately. Now I just need to lose about 10 pounds before tomorrow because they say that television adds weight to how you really look! Actually, it's what I'm going to wear that I can't decide on...should I wear my bright pink "warrior" tennis shoes and bright pink shirt, or should I be more demure and wear my electric blue shirt and blue & black tennis shoes??? Which color would de-emphasize my sure to be "red as a beet" face as I'm interviewed (it's a phenomena I can't control...when I speak in front of people, the heat rises to my face and I turn beet red). I guess you'll just have to tune in tomorrow night and see which look I decide on!<br /> <br /> P.S. Has anyone else noticed I seem to have a thing going on with foxes?Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-34194037592786012482011-02-09T09:10:00.001-08:002011-02-09T09:11:31.012-08:00It just blew in from the Windy City...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsA68jEAWpBXBR6BamtDPugTTF1Bn2iq4LnCTxe3jLruIhipdnvLHv8oQbRaPBSSjXouUvEZTf46cVytlWa7xWVrfiHhc7-HxfZSY6h9faqfDiuwa-4vPuyhTtd2KJsXQeYxba1cjzGvSN/s1600/IMG_0434.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 197px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsA68jEAWpBXBR6BamtDPugTTF1Bn2iq4LnCTxe3jLruIhipdnvLHv8oQbRaPBSSjXouUvEZTf46cVytlWa7xWVrfiHhc7-HxfZSY6h9faqfDiuwa-4vPuyhTtd2KJsXQeYxba1cjzGvSN/s200/IMG_0434.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5571738593928601538" /></a><br />Back in December when my oncologist told me that my hair would probably not grow back any more than it is now, Rich immediately sprung to action. He made a few phone calls and, through a friend of a friend, found a wig salon in Chicago that specialized in custom made wigs. Since my baldness doesn't seem to be just a temporary condition anymore, he wanted me to get a really good wig, customized to fit my head exactly, at whatever cost (well, he probably would have drawn the line somewhere).<br /> <br />I was able to check out the website of the salon, and was amazed at the video they had which showed models wearing their wigs...they looked so real! You could even see their "scalps". The bio of the owner, Brian, said that he had become bald at the age of 14, and so was at first self-taught in the wearing of hairpieces, and then went on to school to learn more about the world of hairpieces and wigs...fitting, cutting and customizing. So he not only talked the talk, but also walked the walk. And he was especially dedicated to helping cancer patients who had lost their hair from chemo. He sounded like just the person for me.<br /> <br />As it happened, Rich was going to be in Chicago on business in early January and I already was planning on joining him, so I contacted Brian's salon and made an appointment to see him. His partner, Jeff, answered the phone and, after hearing my story, asked me to send them a picture of myself before I lost my hair so that they would have an idea of what look I was wanting to recapture with a wig. (I sent them a picture of me as a redhead, of course!) As we're chatting away, he asked me which hotel we were staying at, and when I told him, he said that it was within a few blocks of the salon, and very chic and hip. He then advised me to wear black and leave my "Michigan clothes", i.e. fleece, at home, so that I would fit in! Evidently, his memories of visiting Holland and Douglas are of people wearing fleece, even though it's summer when they visit. I laughed, and promised not to wear any fleece, while actually thinking that maybe I would wear it to my appointment, just to spite him!<br /> <br />Like the dutiful person I am, I wore black to my appointment instead of fleece, but I would have anyway...it's Chicago, afterall. Plus, it's just easier to pack. Jeff acted as if we were old friends when Rich and I arrived and took us back to a private room where we met with Brian. They both were impressed with my Holland wig and thought it looked very natural and real on me, which made me feel good. But I still wanted to try on one of their custom made wigs, to compare it with my own "off the rack" wig.<br /> <br />The first wig they had me try on was dark blonde and shoulder length...not exactly the short red head look I was expecting. I tried it on for them and it looked horrible! I told Brian that this was not the look I was wanting. So he went out of the room and then came back with a short, dark brown colored wig which he placed on my head. Whoa...I looked like a vision of my mom with her full head of hair! It was kind of curly, too, but still wasn't the look I was wanting. I was beginning to wonder if they had even looked at the photo I had sent them before my appointment. <br /> <br />And then Brian showed me the magic of steam. Using a clothes steamer, he showed me how to straighten the hair of a wig, or curl it. When I asked about steam melting the hair (these are still synthetic hair wigs), he said that steam is a wig's best friend...you can create all kinds of styles with steam. It's dry heat, such as ovens, that melts wig hair. So, in minutes, the wig went from curly to straight and looked much better. But it was still too much hair for me, and the fit wasn't quite right, so Brian took if off of me and left the room again to do some more magic to it, this time with needle and thread. When he came back, he put it on me again and it fit like a glove. After running my fingers through it (it felt almost like real hair, unlike my other wig) and playing with it myself, I decided that this was the wig for me...let the cutting and styling begin. (He isn't able to keep a large inventory of wigs in the salon due to space, so only has certain "stock" wigs to try on that can be customized to whatever you want.)<br /> <br />The scary thing about having a wig cut and styled, is that it doesn't grow back like real hair does if it gets cut too short. So it was hard for me to see the scissors darting in and out and hair falling to the floor. At one point I thought he had cut too much from one of the front sides, but then Brian explained that these wigs are made with all individually hand tied hairs, and that he had someone who would add hair back if I wanted, as well as add the red and gold highlights that I had decided it needed. Amazing. So, once the styling was completed, I left the wig with Brian to send out for highlights and additional hair.<br /> <br />It was two weeks before my new wig arrived, but it was worth the wait. The highlights are perfect and add just the right amount of redness and gold to it, and the fullness it has is something I always wished my own hair had had. But the best part is how well it fits and how good it feels on...I can almost forget there's a wig on my head. There's no slipping or sliding on my head anymore and no wig liners to have to wear underneath as with my other wig. This wig came with it's own anti-slip strips sewn into the front and the back of it, which keeps it secure on my head without any added bulk. It makes me wonder why all wigs don't have this sewn into them...it seems so simple. <br /> <br />I'm fooling a lot of people now and feeling good about how I look with my new wig, as I wear it all the time. It feels secure on my head and I can even wear hats or headbands with it...I just have to remember to hold on to my bangs before taking them off ,or everything comes off! But even though it does feel like it's a part of me now, I'll still be doing what Brian calls "the wig walk" and keep my head lowered on windy days...it's still a wig, afterall!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-84491316269924481372011-01-18T17:12:00.000-08:002011-01-18T17:13:13.043-08:00Eek...a mouse!I lost something yesterday that had been with me for the past 14 months, helping me to get well again...my port! At 5:00 p.m., I was ushered in to a surgical room at my surgeon's office, told to remove my clothes from the waist up, and to put on one of those lovely cotton surgical tops that tie in two places, but don't really keep you covered or warm. My attending nurse, Amy, was already a friend...another "sister" and breast cancer survivor who had been part of the six of us chosen and photographed for Dr.Liberty's Relay for Life team. <br /> <br />Rich came with me, despite my telling him it was not a big deal, but he wanted to be there to see the "finish line" with me. He made himself comfortable in a corner chair in the room and soon Dr. Liberty came in. It was like old home week, with the three of us girls hugging and congratulating each other for reaching this milestone. My examination table soon became my surgical table, as Dr. Liberty lowered me down so that I was lying flat on my back, ready for surgery. I was to be fully awake, which had surprised me when I first made the appointment. I was certain that it would be a bloody affair and I might bleed to death, but Dr. Liberty assured me that it would be all right, and that she hadn't lost anyone yet! <br /> <br />She proceeded to give me several shots around the port to numb the skin on the surface and below, draping the area with several cloths, all the while chatting with me and Amy. We chatted back and forth about hair, lack of hair, eyebrows and eyelashes, dogs and puppies...at one point Rich piped in that he was glad he wasn't a girl! As we talked, Dr. Liberty cut open my old incision, snipped away at the scar tissue that had grabbed hold of my port and, before I knew it, my port was out...I didn't feel a thing! And I was kind of disappointed because I didn't see a thing, either. I had been kind of hoping for one of those mirrors that dentists have where you can see the site they're working on, but this room didn't have anything like that. I also had been forwarned that I might feel the port's line come out of my vein, as it was about 8 inches long, but I didn't feel any of that, either. It was like magic, how easily and painlessly it all came out. A few stitches later and it was all done.<br /> <br />I asked to see the port, as I had never seen anything other than a picture of it after it was put in me. It looked like a miniature computer mouse, tail and all! It was about the size of a hershey kiss, but heart shaped, and with a thin tail. Rich asked me if I wanted to take it home with me but I said no, thinking it might seem weird to do so. But I'm wishing now that I had taken it home...it would be a great show and tell!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-41936265008258178802011-01-12T07:14:00.000-08:002011-01-12T07:16:42.131-08:00How dry eye am!Yesterday I went to the eye doctor for a routine visit, but also because I've been having trouble reading and know that changes in vision can be a side effect of chemo. I've noticed a problem since I started chemo, but it seems to have gotten progressively worse lately. I find myself adjusting and re-adjusting my glasses up and down my nose, and finally just give it up and read until my eyes are too tired and blurry. Not a very pleasant experience for someone who loves to read as much as I do.<br /> <br />At my exam, I learned that one eye's vision hasn't changed but that the other eye has, and so the two of them have been fighting as to who the brain should be listening to when I'm reading. After choosing the best lens between choices "one or two, two or three, three or four", the right correction was determined and it was as if I had put 3-D glasses on...everything was clear again and popped right out at me. It was wonderful! <br /> <br />As we moved on to the "dilated eyes" part of my exam, my doctor asked me if my eyes felt dry, to which I answered, yes...all the time. She said that it looked like my tear ducts were clogged, and also that my oil glands were all dried up, which had caused scarring inside my eyelids...all compliments of chemo. I also had some crazy eyelashes on my lower lids that were turning upward, rather than down, and were poking me in the eyes. I told her that must be the reason I often feel like I have sand in my eyes, on top of their feeling dry. She said she would like to pull them out for me, so she numbed my lower lids and, using her magnifying machine to guide her, plucked out the crazy little eyelashes for me. Ahhhh, no more sand. <br /> <br />While on the subject of eyelashes, I asked her what she thought about the drops that are advertised to increase eyelash growth, and if they really work. She said just what I suspected she would...that they do increase growth on eyelashes that already exist, but don't cause new eyelashes to grow. Just like the hair growth products for your head, they only increase growth of hair that is already there. So, like the hair on my head, I guess my eyes will be "bald", as well. But thank goodness for eyeliner!<br /> <br />She prescribed a couple of kinds of drops for my eyes, to lubricate them and to help with my tear ducts. I told her that one of my most annoying side effects during chemo had been the constant tearing of my eyes, and now here I am having dry eyes...talk about opposite extremes! She smiled and then told me that actually they're one and the same...that my tearing eyes had been caused by my having dry eyes. Go figure.Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-21650339167845935392011-01-03T20:19:00.000-08:002011-01-03T20:20:28.578-08:00Bring out the hats and horns...and pass the candy!Today was a red letter day for me...it was my last day of chemo! Rich took the afternoon off from work to go with me and, as usual, the place was full...hardly an empty seat to be found. The private rooms were all taken, leaving us to take two of the last chairs available in the general sitting area. I've become accustomed to sitting out here with the other chemo patients over the course of time. Many of them I see each time I'm there...some are older, some younger, and some are obviously sicker than I am. They are there alone, or with a family member or friend. We all have our little routines and sometimes share our stories. Today I overheard a man tell his wife that he hoped that he would be given a reason to live...to which she quietly answered, I am here and I am your reason.<br /> <br />Being there never fails to make me realize how fortunate I am...to have found my cancer early, to have health insurance to pay for the needed surgeries and chemo, to have the strong support and love of my husband, family and friends. I am thankful for every day and for how little I have had to suffer. I am reminded again of how trivial hair is in the big scheme of things.<br /> <br />Before my appointment, I went downtown to the candy store to buy a box of candy to take in to the oncology nurses as a thank you for all of their TLC. I asked for a five pound box, to be filled with all of my favorite chocolates...double dipped malt balls, milk chocolate covered peanuts, bridge mix, and dark chocolate covered peanuts. It was a smorgasboard of chocolates! When I got to the oncology center, I gave it to Wendy, my nurse throughout my treatments, and asked her to share it with all of the other nurses there. There were oohs and ahs to be heard as they picked out the candies they wanted...it was a universal sound of thankfulness, both given and received. <br /> <br />Forrest Gump had it right when he said that life is like a box of chocolates...you never know what you're gonna get. I think I've got it pretty good!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-29850140141215710902010-12-15T14:09:00.001-08:002011-01-04T12:19:50.496-08:00What happened to the carrot?The past two weeks haven't exactly been stellar for me. Chemo brain seems to be taking over lately in odd little ways. For instance, last week Wednesday I misplaced a birthday card within minutes of signing it. I had let Pearl outside and then gone into the kitchen to sign it while waiting for her, went to let her back inside when she barked, and when I came back to the kitchen the card was gone! I turned the house upside down looking for it...in the trash, in the refrigerator, in the oven, in the closet...who knows where I might have put it. But it was gone...vanished...poof! Over the next couple of days I kept looking, retracing my steps of that morning, certain it would appear but still not finding it. Until Jill was here this weekend, looking through the Christmas cards we've received and found it in the middle of them. I can't tell you how relieved I was!<br /> <br />Monday morning I had a vague memory of Rich showing me a present he had bought for one of the kids, but couldn't remember if the memory was real and, if it was, what I had done with the present. This happened again when shopping later in the day...I had a vague memory of already buying the gift I was again looking at, so I put it back and went home to take a look around the house. Fortunately, I found the gift that Rich had bought, and also the gift that I almost bought again. I guess what I was told about chemo brain sometimes lasting up to 10 years is true!<br /> <br />Yesterday, I had an appointment with my oncologist, just to review blood tests and how I'm doing in general. All the really important things are fine...I'm healthy again and only have ONE MORE chemo infusion, in January. But the news that I didn't like hearing was that my hair is most likely not going to grow back to being anything more than just the peach fuzz that it is now. She tossed out all of my theories and speculations and said that "we'll see what happens" once I'm totally done in January, but she didn't have much hope in her voice. I was crushed. At the onset of chemo there had always been a carrot at the end of the stick...that being all the possibilities of how my hair would grow back. No one ever mentioned the possibility of it NEVER growing back. I know that I'm lucky to be alive and well again, and that there are so many others who are not as fortunate as I am who have much bigger things to worry about. I remind myself of that daily and am so thankful for that, and remorseful when I feel sorry for myself. But dang it all, I never planned on being bald for the rest of my life...it's really hard to wrap my arms around that.<br /> <br />I appologized after whining about it to a dear friend of mine who is battling her own battle of cancer, because my reason seems so trivial compared to what she has gone through. But she wisely and graciously said to me that "it's little in the big scale of things, but big in the little scale of things, and in that little scale of things is where we live most of the time." I think she captured it perfectly. <br /> <br />I know of two other women who's hair didn't grow back after chemo and I'm going to call them after the first of the year and form our own support group. I'm sure there are others out there we can include and we'll call ourselves the "Beautiful Bald Babes". I think that's a great way to start the new year!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-18533880433143506182010-11-08T17:22:00.000-08:002010-11-08T17:24:23.642-08:00The traveling wigsI took my wigs to the Oncology Center last week. When I was there for my infusion I had asked my nurse if I could bring them in and she said I could if they were cleaned first. She told me that my wigs would enable someone else to have a sense of being "normal", who otherwise couldn't afford them. So I washed them and combed them out once they were dry, and must admit I tried them on one last time to make sure I was ready to give them up. But no, they were definately not who I want to be anymore...they were my transition wigs during chemo, and now I have a transition wig for rejoining life after chemo.<br /> <br />That night, Rich happened to bring home an article from the Wall Street Journal about a woman who had recently recovered from breast cancer and her traveling wig. For four years, this wig has been passed from woman to woman with cancer, all friends of the woman who originally bought the wig after her own diagnosis. Her belief was that when you wear this wig, you see yourself as a healthy person, and with these positive feelings this wig got her through it all. The article went on to say that in a recent study, it was found that during moments of uncertainty...when you're under high stress and low levels of control...people are more likely to attach positive energy to certain items. Called the "talisman placebo effect", it's the desire to have a physical token of a wish...in this case, the good health that has been restored to the women who have worn this wig. The "healing wig", as it is described, offers a shared strength, and a path back to health, say the women who've worn it. They all have felt it's power, and each time it is passed on, the woman's story is shared...all stories of restored health. This time it was her turn to pass on the wig.<br /> <br />When I was walking in with my wigs, a woman who was there for her chemo spotted them and, with shining eyes, told me how beautiful they were. I told her I was giving them to whoever needed them. I wasn't able to tell her my own story, but I hope that they become healing wigs for her and anyone else who might need them.Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-34531692637226473622010-10-29T12:08:00.000-07:002010-10-30T12:19:18.159-07:00Why is Albert Einstein in my mirror?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDvrT3XdS4kTE9U95dkRPZb_OOEJ42q35UzyHDum5NKs-HkryK8mxtP6sqcmwCuK-kBSNpM0mKzjo3OZfC2c722go6wlUaPIuX12Byf6xsjjpLN3vslHeKo6pT5_cmT8Ol0wgkpXztc0V7/s1600/anne's+house+004.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 150px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhDvrT3XdS4kTE9U95dkRPZb_OOEJ42q35UzyHDum5NKs-HkryK8mxtP6sqcmwCuK-kBSNpM0mKzjo3OZfC2c722go6wlUaPIuX12Byf6xsjjpLN3vslHeKo6pT5_cmT8Ol0wgkpXztc0V7/s200/anne's+house+004.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5533920586188566946" /></a><br />Something seems to be working...my hair is finally growing! And what's really strange is that as the hair on my head increases in growth, the hair on my legs has slowed to almost a stop! What a great trade-off! It's quite silver in color, with dark hairs sprinkled here and there. It's not thick by any means, but it's definately there...sticking out in every direction! I can't tell if it wants to be curly or just fuzzy for now. I guess that time will tell.<br /><br />I have learned alot about myself through this hair loss part of chemo. I laugh at myself now as I remember the care I took in not exposing my baldness in public. I was embarrassed and felt totally exposed. Now I walk freely around the neighborhood without a hat on or, if wearing a hat, whip it off without a second thought when feeling overheated, no matter where I am. I am comfortable with my baldness or, should I say, I am accustomed to my baldness now. It certainly has its advantages.<br /><br />I recently figured out the real reason that I don't like wearing my wigs anymore. It's for the same reason that Rich has never really liked me in my wigs...they're not ME. They're me pretending to be someone else. They were fun when I first lost my hair...a way to have the hair style that I have always wished I had. But now that I've been bald for ten months, I am ready to become ME again, and these wigs just aren't making me feel that way.<br /><br />Rich suggested that I get another wig...this time a short wig that would look like my hair as it should be looking by now. Feeling that was too frivolous a thing to do, I refused his offer at first and tried wearing the shorter of my two wigs now that it's getting cold out again. But that's when it hit me...I was tired of pretending in this wig and wanted to look like ME again. So I went to the wig shop, and the first wig that I tried on was a "eureka" moment...it was ME reflected in the mirror! I cannot describe how wonderful that made me feel! It was like reuniting with a long, lost friend again. I bought it immediately and wore it home, feeling on top of the world. It's short, it's sassy, and it's ME!<br /><br />I plan on cleaning my other wigs and donating them to the oncology center. They're beautiful, and served their purpose initially. But if I was to do it over again, I would buy something closer to who I already was before chemo...not something to pretend in. Because you really do lose your identity with cancer and chemo...you become cancer and chemo for a while. And you need to be able to get back to being YOU at a certain point in time, even if it is through the help of a wig.<br /><br />I'm so glad to look like ME again!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-46216368727245003892010-10-17T12:42:00.000-07:002010-10-17T12:45:19.958-07:00I'm having a pity partyI know that some of you have taken my daughters or Rich aside and asked them, "how is she <strong><em>really</em></strong> doing?", and they have answered truthfully that I'm doing fine. And I am...<strong><em>really</em></strong>. But I have to admit that my lack of real hair is starting to get to me.<br /><br />I know that the dermatologist said positive things to me, and I'm hopeful that her predictions are true. But I was at a lovely event last Friday night with other breast cancer/chemo survivors, and it didn't have the positive effect on me that I had expected. Instead, I came home kind of depressed. It's not that I didn't enjoy visiting with everyone...that was wonderful. These women are all "warriors" and we're all there for eachother. But what depressed me was their hair...lots of it. Specifically, on the two women who finished chemo within a month of me. I'm thrilled for them, and so glad to see them happy and feeling "normal" again. But a little voice inside my head kept saying, "why can't I have hair, too?"<br /><br />In my googling, I've read that there is a small percentage of women whose hair does not grow back as thick or full as before. I've met two women within the past month who fit that description, and I'm wondering if I will be one of them. While sitting in church this morning, with my hat off and all my little hairs exposed, I decided that if this is yet another way for me to pave the way for others, then l will do it with style. I will keep my hair very short all over, rather than have a woman's version of a "comb-over", and I will continue to wear cute hats and accessories. And I will remember that the positive side to not having much hair is that it's a snap to get ready in the morning!<br /><br /><br />I'm still hoping that my hair is just slow in coming in...it really has grown quite a bit in the past two weeks. You can actually see it now. I'm just hopeful that it starts to fill in, regardless of color or texture. In the meantime, I guess I could get some of that spray paint for hair, that used to be advertised for balding men, and fill in the bare spots!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-34899760089774138682010-10-10T13:35:00.000-07:002010-10-10T13:36:29.731-07:00Frivlous flutter!I just did something quite frivolous and vain...I had eyelash extensions put on my eyes. I called about a month ago to inquire about them, and learned that the eyelashes are put on SINGLY, and are adhered to each of your own eyelashes. I told them that I didn't think I had enough eyelashes at that time, but would like to wait and come in after a month or so and let them see if I had enough to add to yet. And that was last week, Tuesday.<br /><br />I went to my appointment thinking that I would have to keep my eyes open the whole time, with no blinking allowed, and wondered how I was going to be able to do that. To my surprise, the opposite was true...my eyes were closed the whole time. After showing me the different sizes, lengths and colors of eyelashes she had gotten out to try and match to my own lashes, and explaining the whole procedure and possible risks, she asked me to lay down on the table (standard doctor's office variety), get my head comfortable on the pillow and close my eyes.<br /><br />She was very good at talking to me and explaining things as she went along. First, she put "cool pads" under my lower lids, which kept them still, as well as providing some "wrinkle relief" (it was kind of like putting cucumber slices on your eyelids, except these were under the eyes). Then she taped my upper eyelids to my eyebrows so that the edges of the lids and the lashes were fully exposed but my eyes closed. She then proceeded to gently glue each tiny lash to one of my own lashes, working from the outer edges inward for both eyes. It was all finished in about 30 minutes (people with full lashes take about 1 1/2 - 2 hours, averaging about 40 lashes per eye). It was now time for THE REVEAL!<br /><br />Well, it wasn't what I expected. I had asked her before starting if she thought I had enough eyelashes yet to extend, and she said that she thought she could get enough of them (I have some really tiny, short lashes as well as longer lashes). And it seemed like she was really putting alot of them on me. So I was surprised when I looked in the mirror and didn't see my eyes awash in eyelashes! Realistically, I knew that I didn't have much to work on, but wishfully, I was hoping that she had worked miracles on my eyes and that they would look more like they used to. Instead, I only had about 10 lashes per eye, and they were all kind of doing their own thing! They looked perfectly natural, but I just didn't have enough to really see them. Rats. <br /><br />On my way home from my appointment, I called Rich to tell him about them. He asked me how I liked them and when I hesitated, and then said that they weren't what I expected, he exclaimed "OH, NO", thinking that I had PERMANENTLY awful eyelashes now! I assured him that they weren't at all like my own first attempt with the false eyelashes...in fact, you could hardly even see these, they were so few. And in fact, he didn't even notice them when he got home that night, I had to point them out.<br /><br />Sadly, these eyelashes didn't last as long as they were supposed to...probably due to the fact that they pretty much stood alone, and had no protection in numbers! They're supposed to last 6-8 weeks, but I lost one on my right eye the first night, and two on my left eye within the next two days, and yet another on my right eye yesterday. I think I probably accidently knocked them off whenever I rubbed my eyes or washed my face. I'm not used to having to be careful about eyelashes anymore. Finally, they were becoming so ridiculous looking that I removed the rest of them with eye makeup remover last night when I got ready for bed. <br /><br />The funny thing is, that most of you have told me that you didn't even notice my lack of eyelashes until I wrote about it. My glasses frame my eyes and that seems to make up for them. Maybe I'll just leave well enough alone. Or maybe not.Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-4063725816096435752010-10-06T19:28:00.000-07:002010-10-07T05:38:55.261-07:00You have a nice noggin!That's what an old friend from college said to me this weekend as we were sitting around, catching up with each other's lives. I wasn't wearing my hat and, since I still don't have much hair on my head, my "noggin" was easy to see. I am fortunate, I guess, to have a nice head shape...there are no ugly scars or bumps...just a nicely rounded head with white peach fuzz growing all over it. But I'm ready for the real thing now...lots of silky, RED hair and it doesn't seem to be happening very fast.<br /><br />My oncologist took notice of my lack of hair at my last appointment and set me up to see a dermatologist about the possibility of my having chemo induced <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">alopecia</span>. Now wouldn't that be just my luck? Just one more "possible" side effect to add to my list. But according to Dr. Amy, my hair should have looked like this back in June, so I was all for finding out what was going on.<br /><br />I had to wait a couple of weeks to get in, so in the meantime I continued taking my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">pre</span>natal vitamins. I started taking them a few weeks ago after a couple of people said that they had noticed a difference in their own hair growth when they took them. I figured, what can it hurt? I take a multi-vitamin anyway, so I just switched to these. I had some explaining to do, tho, when my son-in-law saw them on the kitchen counter!<br /><br />I finally saw the dermatologist on Monday, and she took a small flashlight to my head and looked closely all around it. She told me that my follicles looked healthy and that there were lots of teeny tiny hairs starting to come in. The fuzz that I'm now seeing is the new (baby) hair that first appears. It will then get stronger and will fill in and have color. She thinks that my hair probably had a double whammy "fall out" reaction...first to the chemo, and then again about three months after chemo was finished. Of course, I thought to myself...my usual chemo "sensitivity". The good news, tho, is that I don't have <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">alopecia</span>! She suggested using <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Rogaine</span> to help spur on those little hairs, so I stopped and bought some that day. It's a foam that you put on once in the morning and once at night. Smells good, too.<br /><br />So, between that and my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">pre</span>natal vitamins, I should look like Lady Godiva in no time!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-82728986593690489332010-09-06T17:10:00.001-07:002010-09-06T17:29:10.987-07:00I'm sitting on top of the world...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBSpQZTNkqGOmwOfa7LQTsZ0leEzm3rxFvD1cR1KAkWk9Ru05kdNNVV63nbYV7ToIicA4yv9edt9isZawORH2l1kKD0uCx_BGLO1GQMQNzL-F44XF66oh1wD_NDOqg3D4VNSdsADYdNnmH/s1600/colorado+2010+021.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5513962020097066962" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBSpQZTNkqGOmwOfa7LQTsZ0leEzm3rxFvD1cR1KAkWk9Ru05kdNNVV63nbYV7ToIicA4yv9edt9isZawORH2l1kKD0uCx_BGLO1GQMQNzL-F44XF66oh1wD_NDOqg3D4VNSdsADYdNnmH/s200/colorado+2010+021.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeFNTNfI-niGvv5wU_VjrT2aOhg2Ff8DFLSYC6P9ezDPtZYhCckbb9Wm5YB9LKkmXusT2NDEeOcJG-RSOF155mewdI2cEwFGKXk1Teu2CEcwynz3GJOlf6qukY4vTR1tkTPwNeI-Sdfcdb/s1600/colorado+2010+002.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5513962007665323810" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeFNTNfI-niGvv5wU_VjrT2aOhg2Ff8DFLSYC6P9ezDPtZYhCckbb9Wm5YB9LKkmXusT2NDEeOcJG-RSOF155mewdI2cEwFGKXk1Teu2CEcwynz3GJOlf6qukY4vTR1tkTPwNeI-Sdfcdb/s200/colorado+2010+002.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div>"I'm sitting on top of the world, just rolling along, just rolling along...<br />I'm quitting the blues of the world, just singing a song, just singing a song..."<br /><br />These were the song lyrics that came to mind as I crested the top of the Crags this past week in Colorado Springs when visiting friends. The Crags are on the western slope of Pike's Peak and brought us up to an elevation of about 10,800 ft. Whew! I quickly found out how much different hiking at a high altitude is from what we're used to here in Michigan...I was out of breath in no time! I learned to just pace myself, drink plenty of water and rest when I needed to. The path was sometimes steep, but mostly a gradual incline through meadows of beautiful Aspen and the hardy Colorado pine trees. What was interesting was the Crags themselves...they are named that because of their craggy rock formations on the sides of the mountain. Their surface is very crumbly, which made walking down them especially tricky because you could slip on the loose gravel they easily produced. So I learned to walk on my tiptoes when the terrain was steep; otherwise your heels could slip out from under you.<br /><br />The view from the top was unbelievable! It was a clear, sunny day without a cloud in the sky. We could see for miles and miles (that's another song that continually popped into my head...my mind is such a jukebox!), seeing several lakes and miles upon miles of open land, as well as the ring of mountains all around us. I've never seen a bluer sky, either. I felt tired when we reached the top of the Crags, but it was a good kind of tired. It made me feel healthy and physically well again, and thankful to have come through all that has been put before me these past months with such fortitude. It was another kind of challenge that I chose to conquer and be enriched from. Thank you, Karin and David, for sharing this special place with us!<br /><br />P.S. How do I know the lyrics to such an old song? I was in a barbershop quartet in college and this was one of our songs!</div></div>Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-56147482710193443452010-08-17T20:20:00.000-07:002010-08-17T20:23:24.845-07:00I'm all aflutter!It's been a few days since my last post, and I thought I'd bring you up to date with the continuing saga of my false eyelashes:<br /> <br /> Q. Did Rich notice them?<br /> A. Yes, after I raised my glasses off my nose and fluttered them at him. He immediately said, "those look awful, what do you have those on for?" Not very sensitive, but I totally agreed, and promptly pulled them off my eyes and flushed them down the toilet!<br /><br /> Q. How did I do with the second pair of eyelashes?<br /> A. No drama this time! They're much easier to put on because they came with little pincher-like things to hold the lashes with.<br /><br />The second pair look a lot more natural, as they don't have the liner look to them. The little pincher allowed me to hold them with one hand, while using a toothpick to apply a very small amount of glue to the base with the other hand. Then I just aimed for my eyelid and plopped it on! I'm finding that it's a real art to get them on straight and on the edge of the eyelid, though. With the first eye I had extra glue showing on my lid, but was able to wipe it off with a wet cutip (you really need special supplies to do this!). The second eye I did much better with and it was glue free. Both needed some straightening out after applying, but weren't too far off...not as bad as the first go 'round, that's for sure!<br /><br /> Q. How do I like wearing them?<br /> A. I think I prefer the alien look I've been sporting for the past six months!<br /><br />I've gotten quite used to the ease of just jumping in & out of the shower in the morning, putting lotion on, swiping lipstick on my lips, and calling it good! I now have to allow extra time to put on my eyelashes and, if I remember, to also draw on my eyebrows. What a hassle! I'd forgotten how much work it was to be a girl. I'm not sure I'm ready for this change! And the new lashes didn't stay on as well as the first pair...I must not have used enough glue. By the end of the day, they were lifting off my eyes at the outside edges...kind of like how a caterpillar lifts itself up to look around. But when I fluttered my eyelashes at Rich, this time he asked me how I liked them...he's a quick learner, too!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-39221923910202947472010-08-13T12:45:00.000-07:002010-08-13T12:49:40.063-07:00Flutter, flutter, flutter!I'm so excited! My eyes are finally dry (it's been since March), which means I get to finally try out my new false eyelashes! The song phrase, "How dry I am", keeps cycling in my head like a broken record! It's such a good feeling to be free of the collection of tissues always in my pockets to dab my eyes with, and to no longer have chapped skin around my eyes from the constant tearing. It's amazing how much I was physically affected by this...it was like crying all of the time, and then being tired because of it.<br /><br />But now it's over...one more obstacle out of the way! And it's time to try on those eyelashes I have tucked away in my drawer....<br /><br />....Well, that was like being in an episode from "Candid Camera", trying to put those lashes on! First, I followed the picture showing to extract them from their case with tweezers, so I did. But in doing so, I bent the lashes on one end so they're a little off line with the rest. Then I tried to hold them with my fingers (which are stubby because my nails are not long enough yet to help out) and kept accidently touching the sticky part of the lashes and getting them stuck on my fingers, back and forth between hands, as I tried to unstick myself. By now, the whole eyelash is becoming a bit bent out of shape and losing its stickiness, and I haven't even attempted to put it on my eyelid yet!<br /><br />I finally managed to get my fingers unstuck from the lashes and hold them up to my eye and press them on.....well, to borrow a line from a character in the book, "Little Bee", WU-ha, ha, ha!!!!!! I laughed so hard! I had it on so cock-eyed that I looked like a bald, hung-over drag queen! It took SEVERAL more attempts to get the dang thing on straight, and by now I was worried that the glue wouldn't stick anymore and it would end up hanging precariously from my eye!<br /><br />Luckily, the second eyelash was much easier to put on (I'm a quick learner), but there was something about them that I didn't like. Was I just so used to my lashless self that it looked unnatural to me now? And they felt kind of heavy on my eyes. Then I realized that I had bought eyelashes that had an eyeliner look to them, and that's what was glaring at me...the dark lines outlining my naked, falsely eyelashed eyes. I decided to keep them on anyway and try them out for the day. I eyelined under my eyes to complete the look and left the house to do some errands. <br /><br />My first stop was to Target to see what other eyelashes were available to me. Another chemo friend of mine had worn some for her "glam shot" with Dr. Liberty and they looked beautiful and natural on her because they didn't have the eyeliner look. And sure enough, there on the shelf were individual eyelashes you could add to your own eyelashes, two at a time (yikes, that would be a terrible undertaking without long nails), and whole eyelashes that looked individual but without the liner look. I selected the whole eyelashes and headed for the checkout.<br /><br />I'm still wearing the eyelashes and wonder if Rich will even notice them. I'm very aware of them on my eyes...they really are kind of heavy and weird feeling. Tomorrow will be yet another fun day of trying on my newest pair...I hope that my skills improve with practice. But I'm determined that the next time you see me, I'll be fluttering my eyelashes at you!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-80466429815449680542010-07-30T19:47:00.001-07:002010-07-30T19:47:55.473-07:00The "girls"WARNING: The following information may not be suitable for sissy men. Wifely supervision recommended.<br /><br />It's been over a month now since my implant surgery. I've been back twice for my post-op visits to my surgeon and both of us are quite pleased with how my new girl looks. She's not the same as the other girl, but I knew that going in. My older girl is aging with me and will continue to, whereas my new girl will be forever perky! I've been asked which one I prefer, and to be honest with you, I like the older girl the best as she's the most natural looking and feeling of the two. And she ought to be, as the surgery for her was no picnic and was a real test of my physical and mental abilities.<br /><br />The first girl's surgery is called a TRAM (Transverse Rectus Abdominus Myocutaneous) flap. It was done immediately following my mastectomy and consisted of taking the fat and tissue of my belly and tunneling it under my skin up to where my breast would be, all the while being connected to one of my stomach muscles which would provide the blood flow to the new breast. As a result of the stomach muscle being stretched so taut, I walked around like Groucho Marx for the first two weeks, until the muscle stretched enough to allow me to stand upright again. As a result, that muscle is weak and I can no longer do sit ups. Darn! It also was like having a tummy tuck. Goodie!<br /><br />The surgery for an implant is done in two stages. In the first stage, which was also done immediately after my mastectomy, an expander shaped like a banana was placed under my skin where my breast would be and filled with saline. Every two weeks I went back to the surgeon to have more saline put in it through a port, which causes the expander to enlarge and thus stretch the skin to the size needed for the implant to slip into. In my case, though, my surgeon liked the shape and size I was immediately after the surgery, so he did not fill it with any more saline. I was ready for stage two right away, but because of my chemo, I had to wait until 6 weeks after my last infusion before it was safe for me to have surgery. The surgery consisted of re-opening my incision and taking out the expander, slipping in the deflated implant and then filling it with saline until it was the correct size and a tight fit. <br /><br />Recovery for the TRAM flap surgery was a long, hard 6-8 weeks. Recovery for the implant surgery was about 1 1/2 weeks, and was a piece of cake. Which surgery would I recommend? I think I'd say the TRAM flap. It was a very tough road, and I questioned myself numerous times as to why I did this to myself, but the end result is so much more natural than the implant and won't require future surgeries as the implant will. Implants usually last only ten or so years and then need to be replaced, as they can develop leaks over time. <br /><br />I told my surgeon and nurses that I would be glad to talk to patients who might be having a hard time deciding about which type of surgery to have. I want to share my experiences if they can help others. And I also told them that I could be a "two for one" show...if someone wants to see the results of both surgeries, all they have to do is compare my girls! <br /><br />You lose all modesty when you lose your breasts.Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-69037984740897964112010-07-19T06:35:00.000-07:002010-07-19T06:50:25.239-07:00When is shaving your legs a good thing?The actual answer to that question is <em>never</em>. However, the current answer to that question is <em>now</em>, because it means that my hair is starting to grow back! <br /><br />While sitting in the car for many hours during our recent road trip, I had plenty of time to study my feet and legs. And what I discovered was that my legs were beginning to look furry! They were a soft and blonde furry...not really noticable to anyone other than me...but none the less, proof of a rebirth going on in my body! For the first time since I was an awkward teenager, I was excited to have a reason to shave again! Even though the act of shaving again doesn't excite me much, it's sure a good sign that things are moving along.<br /><br />The hair on my head has the same soft and blonde furry look coming in, but ever so slowwwwly. You have to look really close to see it, it is so fine. I am impatient for it to grow in, and very curious as to what color and texture it will be. I am still surprised every time I see my bald self in a mirror...you'd think I'd be used to it by now. But the reason for my current surprise is that I feel normal now, and expect that I look normal as well. I forget that I still look like a cancer patient, not like the rest of you. When I said this to Rich, he told me that's how he sees me every day...as someone who has been sick. My hair loss is a constant reminder to him of what I've been through. I never thought about that. I just thought that he saw me as my old self again, physically as well as spiritually, as I do in my mind.<br /><br />I mentioned that I had plenty of time to study my feet, as well, on our trip. It seems that the chemo has had the same effect on my toenails as it did on my fingernails...it just took longer to happen. In particular, both of my big toenails have been the most affected and are quite loose...they are curious, empty shells on my toes. I have to be real careful when putting on shoes or sandals, so that I don't bump them and loosen them further. All was well until the end of our trip when I bumped my left toe and loosened the nail some more, so that when we went swimming later that day, the kicking of my feet in the water pretty much finished the job. Surprisingly, when I went inside and removed it, it didn't hurt at all...there was absolutely no feeling in my nailbed. <br /><br />I've lost a few of my past side effects, but I've recently gained a new one...sensitivity to the sun and heat. I've heard the expression, "prickly heat", but now I have experienced it as well. It seems that whenever I get too warm my skin prickles now, up and down my body. And I've also come close to fainting, as well, from the heat. I drink plenty of water...you could float a boat in me...so that's not the reason. It's just my continued luck of the draw, I guess. This just shows how powerful and pervasive the effects of chemo are, and how long it can affect the body. I guess it also shows that it is still fighting the bad guys for me!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-10521569205908909802010-06-29T08:11:00.001-07:002010-07-01T11:07:36.344-07:00Feeling good!This morning I have an appointment to see my oncologist and then get my chemo infusion. It's so nice to only be going every three weeks now, rather than weekly. It seems like a long time has passed, and a lot has happened, since my last infusion. My port has been cleaned out and I now have a new "girl"...all that in three weeks time! I'm feeling a little anxious, however, and am hoping that my port will be good to me today, but I'm taking a book and snack bars, just in case.<br /><br />I continue to feel better and better! My energy level is returning in leaps and bounds (I'm walking 3 miles again, and played 9 holes of golf with a cart last week), my muscle stiffness is pretty much gone, my taste buds and appetite are back to normal, my water retention went away as did the extra pounds I gained, and the hair on my head is slowly coming back (no sign of eyelashes/brows yet). I still have the tearing eyes, but it is definately slowing down, finally. It's mostly just my right eye now, which is how it all started out, so I'm hoping that this means I'm nearing the end. In anticipation of having dry eyes again, I bought fake "glamour" eyelashes yesterday! I can hardly wait to try them and see how they look!<br /><br />The funny thing about my feeling so good and much like my old self again is that I forget that I still don't LOOK like my old self, and so am always surprised by the person who greets me in the mirror! I'm not embarrassed anymore by my hairlessness, I just totally forget how others perceive me. I get special smiles or treatment from people in stores, which then reminds me that, oh yeah, I'm the woman with cancer. It doesn't upset me to be reminded of that...it just surprises me because in my own mind I'm not there anymore...I've moved on and feel healthy and spunky again!<br /><br />I have discovered that I have developed a new fetish due to my baldness, however. Hats! Since I rarely wear my wigs anymore (Rich really prefers that I don't wear them...they're not "me"), I need hats! Even though my small head makes it a challenge to find them to fit me, I've managed to acquire quite a collection of them! But as I told Rich, it's like shoes...one color/style doesn't go with every outfit, you need variety! And we all know it's all about accessories! This weekend I discovered a trick to make my looser hats fit better...velcro! No, not on my head, as Rich suggested, but inside the brims of the hats. I glued just the soft, fuzzy half of the velcro around the inside of the hats and it provides just enough thickness to make them fit tighter! Yay! Now they don't slip over my eyes anymore!<br /><br />Now that it's warm out, I'm driving my convertible more. I wasn't sure if I would want to drive it, being bald, and I was worried about my hats blowing off. But so far, my hats are staying on just fine, and I actually take them off sometimes because they can just be too hot to wear. So if you see a little bald-headed lady driving a cute, white convertible that's me! Now I just need to be sure to put sunscreen on my head so that my "virgin" skin doesn't burn! In the meantime, I seem to be acquiring freckles, as fill in for my hair!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-52077305655486560372010-06-22T17:58:00.000-07:002010-06-22T18:01:13.322-07:00Turn about is fair play!I played 9 holes of golf last weekend and Marcia rode in the cart with me. On the 15th hole, I was leaning over to pick up a ball and she mentioned how much hair I had lost in the last few months (thanks for noticing!). I have seen the same trend in the morning mirror but have tried to ignore it. Don’t worry, my health is just fine. <br /><br />I did, however, tell Marcia I partially blame her for my hair loss. I think the financial crisis over the last fifteen months also had a little something to do with it. The difference between her hair loss and mine is that her hair is growing back. I’m not quite as confident about mine. I guess she can get used to me with less hair as I have with her. <br /><br />We are looking forward to a 2 week car vacation visiting family in upper New York State, then a tour through Ontario north and east of Lake Huron, a visit to Mackinac Island, and a couple days of golf and relaxation with old friends. We just realized Marcia has not had a night away from home in about six months. We love road trips and plan to leave the e-mail and voice mails at home. Life returning to normal sure feels good!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-82687655084577721172010-06-16T10:19:00.001-07:002010-06-17T14:02:10.921-07:00I'm living in the middle of Michigan Outdoors!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzTV0cDmRpm3aCqfyR_qS3TYDKYNpgv9fKjYHzNgzj9Cvb7sJsbuwUOMMdNkN_7VqAUv-OQhmkMorKJOvcrCrBx9AvVyK3AysZnz2BFxxBsGZrjX9dJIGeqR1ziRYEheMjWVjxXymyI6mk/s1600/IMG_0094.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5483850740362978930" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzTV0cDmRpm3aCqfyR_qS3TYDKYNpgv9fKjYHzNgzj9Cvb7sJsbuwUOMMdNkN_7VqAUv-OQhmkMorKJOvcrCrBx9AvVyK3AysZnz2BFxxBsGZrjX9dJIGeqR1ziRYEheMjWVjxXymyI6mk/s200/IMG_0094.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWWyxbOOeWWbYC0QoJjLcdvtxjMy9fhaYp2RPZGdBd9Rj9_q-W3B1XKB-8Tw8ZPTIQ28yfObbYLLoDNb1w0O75yIjY0tqX5oo8c20K4rIIJbY0BKFPnpl6sTZFDG7ML-pz_KoiVryYIfFZ/s1600/IMG_0117.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5483422975053990754" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWWyxbOOeWWbYC0QoJjLcdvtxjMy9fhaYp2RPZGdBd9Rj9_q-W3B1XKB-8Tw8ZPTIQ28yfObbYLLoDNb1w0O75yIjY0tqX5oo8c20K4rIIJbY0BKFPnpl6sTZFDG7ML-pz_KoiVryYIfFZ/s200/IMG_0117.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq1vzOsv2_-9tnQ_5H27F37vHipAOe03G5UUAOcWfHWFvWZ-_eQc9lSQf-tKLjkVeK_cbVMM-owXfNiy7cYc9rbVf-9N-QT_iuiSXdtItEhoRya_D1SeRn2OBN_7ZAKLtSZQA0O0oZ7w2e/s1600/IMG_0105.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5483422960285629442" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiq1vzOsv2_-9tnQ_5H27F37vHipAOe03G5UUAOcWfHWFvWZ-_eQc9lSQf-tKLjkVeK_cbVMM-owXfNiy7cYc9rbVf-9N-QT_iuiSXdtItEhoRya_D1SeRn2OBN_7ZAKLtSZQA0O0oZ7w2e/s200/IMG_0105.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div>We live in the middle of 3 acres of wooded property, and over the years we have seen our share of wild animals. There have been the turkey families, who have sometimes defied me as I attempted to drive up to my garage; the moles, leaving lovely "soft spots" in our yard where their tunnels are; the squirrels, enjoying the bounty of acorns from our oak trees and helping to plant more; the deer, transforming my hostas into yucca-like plants after eating all the flowers and leaving just the stems; Chuck, the woodchuck, sunbathing on my deck when not eating my cone flowers (he sits on his haunches and eats, reminding me of Bugs Bunny eating a carrot); and now we have Fred, the red fox, living under our front deck, who we found out recently is really Fredrika because she has babies!<br /><br />We've seen Fred off and on over the past two years, but Pearl is who discovered her babies for us. She and I had been hearing soft bumping noises under the deck when sitting in the kitchen. She decided to take a look out the kitchen door to the deck, and lo and behold, there were three fox babies playing in the ground cover! Pearl went crazy! I managed to catch her and gate her in the back hall so that I could watch. They were about the size of a beany baby and they played and rolled around like little puppies. We saw them off and on for about a week. Fred would leave treasures for them to eat (once we saw a rabbit leg, another time a squirrel tail and torso) at the "door" to their hideaway. But Pearl's barking must have finally spooked them because Fred eventually moved them to the woodpile in the backyard.<br /><br />Nighttime is when we hear Fred and/or her mate. They are nocturnal animals, and so are out hunting in the woods when it's time for me to let Pearl out for her last potty break (don't worry, she's on a chain). Foxes make the creepiest sound...it's a very raspy, throaty bark. Fred doesn't come close, she just walks the perimeters of our yard, barking at us. I had no idea that foxes made any sound at all, until I googled "creepy night barking" and red foxes was one of the animals that came up. When I clicked on the YouTube video, I immediately saw and heard a fox barking like Fred does! Even knowing what the bark is, I still don't like it and always go outside with Pearl at night, armed with my weapon-like flash light that I shine out in the woods! When I've caught Fred in the light, her eyes glowed red....euwwwwww!<br /><br />It didn't take long for the fox family to miss the spaciousness of our deck, so they soon moved back. And suddenly I counted FOUR babies, instead of three. And then in another week or so, while watching the four of them play (my living room chair is a front row seat to watch them), I noticed another head poke out from under the deck...a FIFTH baby! By now my plants are getting destroyed by their antics, as they think our deck and surrounding ground cover are their own personal playground! We have a three-tiered fountain that we haven't taken the cover off of yet, because they think it's a jungle gym for them and we can only imagine how much more fun splashing in the water would be!<br /><br />In the meantime, poor Pearl has been going crazy with these babies always around. She spends her days going from window to window, looking for them, and when they're around she is beside herself. And as much as I enjoy watching them (they're so dang cute), they're upsetting the balance of our happy home. So on Thursday, I called animal control.<br /><br />My first question I asked was do they catch and release, to which she said yes. Good. But when I told her what kind of animals I wanted caught, there was a pause, and then she said she didn't know of anyone who has ever caught red foxes because most people like having them around to catch mice and other small pesky animals. But she was excited and wanted to take the challenge! So out she came with five large cages, which she baited with cat food, sardines, and dead mice! She put them near each opening we found by the deck and told me to call her if we caught any before she came back to check on them later in the day. That night I had a hard time sleeping...I felt so guilty betraying my babies!<br /><br />Well, there's a reason for the saying, "sly as a fox", because the foxes outsmarted us! They took one look at the cages, and got out of town! They didn't touch the yummy food (except for one can of cat food that was set out on the deck and not in a cage...they took off with that one!), they just decided to relocate again. I did catch them on the deck on Friday when I came home from doing errands, but the babies just made a dive for under the deck, and Fred calmly walked out in the yard, watching me (in the car). I rolled down my window and told her to take her babies and run for it...I really didn't want them to get caught, I just want them out from under my deck!<br /><br />On Monday, we surrendered and the traps were all taken away. We didn't catch the foxes, but hopefully we've caused them to relocate permanently somewhere else. In the meantime, I've ordered a couple of solar and ultrasonic animal repellers that I'll put out in the yard and hope that helps deter the foxes, and also the deer. We still hear Fred at night barking at us, but maybe these will help keep her from coming close again. Who's out-foxing who?! </div></div></div>Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2270705957609526294.post-88128165651716264202010-06-14T11:24:00.001-07:002010-06-14T11:24:32.522-07:00Bombs away, she's feeling fine!That's what Jill's fancy new phone thought she said when she attempted to voice command text this morning after my surgery! What she really said was "Mom's okay, she's feeling fine"! And it's true, all went well and I'm feeling swell (the drugs made me say that)!<br /><br />We had to be at the hospital by 6:45 this morning. It's pretty sad that I didn't have to show my driver's license to the girls at the front desk when I checked in because they already knew who I was! I wish it was because I'm so memorable, not because I've had a few surgeries there! Actually, they do remember me from when I volunteered in the Surgery Waiting Room a few years ago, but I know that my frequent "visits" there help keep me fresh in their minds.<br /><br />Anyway, everything went on time...in fact, they were ready ahead of time and anxious for the nurse to hurry up and get me hooked up with my IV so they could wheel me away (don't worry, she didn't rush through anything)! Dr. Dodde came in first and drew diagrams all over my chest as he explained my surgery again. With saline implants, the actual implant is not inflated when inserted and is much smaller and easier to insert than a silicone implant (which would be full of the silicone before inserting). Once inside me, the implant is filled with saline until the proper size is achieved. Then they sew me up again and put me in another corset-like bra again, which I have to wear until my post-op appointment next week. The surgery took about an hour, and after I was able to eat my toast and drink my oj I was allowed to go home. <br /><br />So far, I'm feeling absolutely no pain or discomfort, other than a slightly sore throat from the breathing tube during surgery (I've been coughing and clearing my throat alot to clear my chest). I seem to be well matched now, but I won't be able to actually see "the girls" for a few days yet when I'm allowed to take my corset off and shower! <br /><br />Well, I'm a little sleepy, and a nap is next on my agenda (Rich and Jill are already napping...what's wrong with this picture?!). I know I'll have sweet dreams now that my surgery is behind me. One more thing to cross off my list!Marciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777137246405593901noreply@blogger.com4